6 Things Being A Mother Has Taught Me
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL!!
Last Mother’s Day, I spent it sprawled across my bed, crying & sulking in my self-pity. Thinking about Momma, how I would be welcoming a baby into the world with no Mom myself & him not knowing her at all. Just all around bad.
This year, I’m celebrating. I’ve had many different jobs in my past but I’ve got to say, being a Momma has to be my favorite. It’s both challenging & extremely rewarding – I can’t even begin to explain. & to think I was worried I’d suck at it.
Call it extremely corny or cheesy or just being extra but I honestly feel like Jackson gave me new life. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVED my life pre-baby. Partying, a different kind of socializing, independence – FREEDOM! But it’s like he’s brought entirely new version of life to me. I birthed him but he made me a Momma. & for that, I’m eternally grateful.
He’s only 5 months but he’s taught me so much. Hey Momma’s – this is for you!
POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE
You birthed a watermelon through your keyhole. You endured labor. Not only did you withstand a fair amount of pain but your internal strength to willingly go through with it is phenomenal. Go you!
You know those times when you are just tired of everything. When the baby is fussing like crazy, swinging arms & legs & just causing chaos – yet you still just scoop them up & tell them you love them over & over & over.. It’s those moments that have taught me I will love this little person more than anything else in the world, no matter what. Even when I want to pull my hair out, Jackson will still be my reason why.
EMOTIONS ARE FELT THEN LET GO – MANDALA
One moment, the baby is crying nonstop then laughing hysterically the next. They essentially have the memory of a goldfish – they don’t hold onto their emotions (good or bad). We, as Mommas, could take note of this. We don’t need to carry around that emotion from the public blowout or sleepless night. I’ve learned to let the emotion exist for whatever it’s purpose & length of time then let it go once it’s done. Channel a mandala “Everything is temporary.”
AWE IN THE SIMPLE THINGS
After, spending just a few minutes with any baby, you’ll witness how the simplest things brighten their days & hold their attention (if only for a couple minutes). For example, the level of excitement Jackson gets out of an inside out Ziploc bag (under adult supervision) or seeing his reflection in a mirror. Take a note from them & really see the simple things that are so amazing & beautiful. We need to get back to that childhood element where everything is incredible, rather than anticipating the ‘next big thing.’
LIVE IN THE MOMENT
BABIES DO NOT KEEP! I’ll say it again. Babies do not keep. Your little one will grow like a weed in the blink of an eye so take the time to hold them while they still fit in your arms! It’s not possible to spoil your child so do it! Soak up every moment – every cryfest, every cuddle, every blowout, every hug because everything could change the next day.
SOME DAYS, YOU’LL MESS UP
Before becoming a parent, I knew I wanted to leave a mark on Jackson the same way my Momma did on me. Knowing those would be big shoes to fill, I’ve quickly learned to fill my own shoes with my Momma in mind. Yes, the hard days will come when I feel like I don’t even measure up to her or just being a Momma in general. The most important thing is that I’m doing my best & that’s all Jackson can really expect from me
I love you, Jackson Charles. More than you’ll ever know.
Thank you for allowing me to be your Momma